9 Questions to Ask Before You Attract Your Soul Mate

9 Questions to Ask Before You Attract Your Soul Mate

Are you looking for your dream love? Before you can attract the love you have been waiting for, there are some important questions to ask yourself. We can only attract that which we are in vibration with. This means that we attract people who are similar to us in many ways, even if we don’t always want to see it that way.

Here are 9 important questions to ask yourself when attracting your soulmate:

  1. How well do I know myself?

Do you know yourself really well? Many times we think we know ourselves well, only to discover that we often lie to ourselves, ignore our thoughts and feelings, and disappoint ourselves often.

Observe yourself in different situations. How do you act when you are alone versus when you are with friends, family, people you haven’t met before, colleagues, etc.? Do you act the same way around all of them? If not, it may be because you don’t know yourself very well. You feel like you must act a certain way to get approval, instead of acting in a way to approve of yourself.

It is very important to know yourself before you can attract your soulmate. If you don’t, you will see all the things you don’t like about yourself in your partner and it will cause fights and break down communication. You will also change to try to get approval from your partner when what you really want is someone you can be truly yourself with and still be comfortable that they will accept you.

  1. What are my plans for the future?

Are you planning to stay in the same city for the rest of your life? Are you wanting to travel around? Do you love your job and plan to stay there as long as you can or do you plan to look for a different job? Are you open to living somewhere else? Do you want children? Do you want to buy a home soon or do you love the home you have now?

It is very important that you know what you want for your future so that when you attract your soulmate, you will know that you are both in alignment with your futures. If you meet someone who isn’t in alignment with your future, you will know they are not your soulmate.

  1. Am I comfortable in silence and being alone?

If you can’t go out and have fun on your own, you will have a challenge attracting your soulmate. Your soulmate is not responsible for your happiness. That is your job. Being able to have fun alone and doing your own thing will set the stage for a healthy relationship.

  1. Do I trust myself?

When you tell yourself you are going to do something, do you do it? Keeping promises to yourself, even small ones, is how you build trust. If you tell yourself you’re going to eat healthier, eat healthier. If you tell yourself you’re going to finish a project, finish the project. If you tell yourself you’re going to go to the gym at 6 am, go to the gym at 6 am. If you don’t think you’re actually going to do something, don’t tell yourself you will. This takes practice at first because many people think they want something they don’t actually want because other people want it and they think it will make them look good in the eyes of others, instead of wanting it for themselves. If you really want something for yourself, do it.

  1. Do I appreciate myself?

Do you know all of the ways you are awesome? It is so important to appreciate all the great things about yourself. If you are awesome at organizing stuff, great at fashion, great at talking to people, a great artist, are adventurous, great at planning, or anything else, take the time to appreciate that about yourself. Many times because things are easy for us or we like to do them, we take them for granted and don’t take the time to appreciate ourselves for it. It is really important to know how awesome you are, otherwise you will attract people who don’t appreciate you, either. Your soulmate will appreciate all of those things about you and if you aren’t comfortable with the greatness of you, you will feel uncomfortable around your soulmate for noticing.

  1. How do I treat the people I love the most?

Are you kind and loving to your friends and family? The people we love the most tend to be the people who can trigger our emotions the most. It is important to look at the way our loved ones trigger emotions in us because our soulmate will most likely trigger the exact same emotions. If we get mad at our loved one for something, it is stuff we must look at and heal and let go of in order for us to attract a loving relationship with our soulmate. Are you able to communicate your needs, thoughts, and desires to those people? Are we able to have honest and open communication when we are triggered to come up with a creative, loving solution to challenges? Once we have a great relationship with the people we love the most, we will be ready to attract our soulmate.

  1. Do I have a good self-care/ self-love practice?

If you want to attract your soulmate, you must treat yourself the way you would want your soulmate to treat you until they are in your life. You must practice the relationship you want with your soulmate before they appear. If you want long, romantic walks on the beach, take them. If you want flowers and love songs, give them to yourself. If you want to do fun things with your soulmate, do the fun things until your soulmate is there. Take care of your body the way you would for your lover. If you would dress nicely and do your hair to look nice for your love, then do it now as if your love is there. It’s like a dress rehearsal for the real thing. Basically, anything you are waiting to do until your soulmate appears, do it now.

  1. Am I taking care of all of my own needs?

Make a list of all the things you need from your soulmate. Now start filling all of those needs on your own. It is not your soulmate’s job to take care of your needs. If you feel this way, this is probably why they aren’t in your life. Just as you want an emotionally stable partner, your soulmate wants the same thing.

  1. Am I proud of where I am in my life right now?

When you think about your life and what you’ve accomplished, are you proud of what you have done? If not, it is a good time to forgive yourself for anything you think you should have done by now but haven’t and start to think of ways that you could make yourself proud.

For some people it might be running a marathon, eating 10 servings of fruits and vegetables each day, getting an advanced degree or certification, winning an award at work, volunteering once a week for a good cause, making a difference in someone’s life, creating a successful business, or reading a book per month. Being proud of yourself is a personal creation but if you don’t feel proud of who you are, you probably won’t feel worthy of having a good partner.


Once you have answered these questions, you will have a good starting place for attracting your soulmate. The relationship with yourself is the key to great relationships with anyone else. Your happiness and feeling good about being you is your highest priority.

If you are doing these things and still not attracting the love that you want, you might have blocks preventing you from seeing what is not allowing the soulmate love that you want in your life.